And Still I Rise

That way dost hell lie. No matter what the person says in the short term there is always the latent expectation that you'd grow into loving them. This rarely happens. More often both parties end up short-changed and embittered.
 

Doesn't make sense Kami....love is mutual. If the other party does not share the same feelings it doh mek sense. Continue the search, eventually one will find someone who shares the same feelings. Dr. D.
 

NO WAY!!! It nuh work so at all. If it's not mutual then there are going to be problems. Eventually both are going to feel trapped and overshadowed.
It has to be a mutual thing....
 

so ya trying ta say ya doan love me, cuhdear I'm crushed lol

seriously though I agree with the other comments although I do think that one can grow to love someone if they love you.
 

Of course mi love ya:)
 

so u love jDid.. not me :( hehe.. :)

Well you never know when and how you fall in love.. When you did, you just know it
 

Now she says she loves Jdid and not me :( I'm crushed, damaged, scarred for life......
oh welll...life....
 

Y'all too jealous.By the way I agree with Jdid on the growing to love bizniz.Y'all don't think it worth a risk?
 

Nope...too big a risk. If you want to take a chance then at least agree to a prolonged courtship and see....
 

Kami..dat's why de divorce courts suh full nowadays, too many wimmen setteling fuh security. Mek yuh own security. Love is a two way street and sometimes more.. Don't settle.
 

Camp...de way how some people married and divorce quick quick nowadays...you soon may not need any divorce court or lawyer...a mere swipe of a plastic card might do...who get which assets and custody of pickney print out on the transaction slip! :-0 Dr. D.
 

:p
 

Kami, tell your friend doh shortchange herself. Thats what I think. Imagine she takes up with this man and then she bucks Mr. Right! Wot a calamity! Tell herDoh do it Kami, she not to do it! I say her and she becuz I know you wouldn't consider any such thing! You're a romantic and would never give up on love. You'll wait on Jdid, I know it!
 

Definitely longest comment ever.But plenty sense in it
 

No mi dear ma'am... what good is this person saying they love you when yuh nuh feel di same way? You'd end up hurting the person and hurting yourself.
 

well, i think of arranged marriage where neither party is necessarily in love with the other, and these marriages often last a long time.

i don't believe you have to love someone to be with them, but you do have to like them an awful lot. because it's the liking that gets you through the rough spots. when you marry your friend, you have a friend who weathers the hard times with you. i have seen too many people marry for love/passion/romance and then when things fall apart they have nothing to stand on.

perhaps i'm taking your question way out of context but it might be quite elementary: if you don't see anything developing with that person, then don't get involved. people get into relationships to "see where they lead," and if you can't see it happening on a lont-term basis, then don't even bother.

that's my two cents. : )
 

and my aunts live by the adage "make sure the other person loves you more"... and they've all been married for more than 30 years, so perhaps they know of what they speak...