Monday, April 10, 2006
Am not sure if any of you have heard about Will and Jada Smith's open marriage.Here is Will's view point "Our perspective is you don’t avoid what’s natural,” the actor recently told a UK newspaper. “You’re going to be attracted to people. In our marriage vows, we didn’t say ‘forsaking all others’. The vow that we made was that you will never hear that I did something after the fact"
"If it came down to it, then one can say to the other, ‘Look, I need to have sex with somebody. I’m not going to if you don’t approve – but please approve of it.’"
And all of this is coming to light because Will admitted to having sexual feelings for Eva Mendes while filming Hitch.And to think people thought this was the ideal marriage-well it is if you into swinging.
Ummm..okay so I take it an open relationship is where each person is given a green light to have sex with who ever they please.According to the sexperts this is supposed to keep things fresh and exciting(um.sure)The pro open relationship parties will argue that it is better to know before hand than than finding out after the deed is done.(ummm.whatever)
It gets even better.The person who is stepping out probably swears to have safe sex and to be sure the other party probably watches to ensure the rules are kept.(um...freaky)
Best of all there must be no emotional attachment.I guess this means a lot of one night stands.right?
Maybe,it is just me but how sick is this? Am thinking of my group of friends and the likelihood of one mentioning that their sex life is dull and if as a favour I could sleep with her boyfriend/husband.Just the thought is enough to make me puke.But,let's say I agreed won't that mean the end of the friendship? Or alternately the conversations would be just out of this world.Call me old fashioned but this is way too advanced for me.Maybe,when I grow up some more I'll be totally accepting but in the meantime excuse me while I puke.
i mean ok marriage aint mean that you are dead. you will be attracted to other people that goes without saying. however the open concept seems to defy the whole point of marriage. why not just be friends who live together and have a relationship but are allowed to date others.
I don't know how junk food came into my post somewhere up there... but mentioning it is making me want a Double Whopper right now. (Is this report of their relationship being open a facutal one? If so, I should try to get in contact with Jada Pinkett, and make her "Matrix" her way all over my body...)
i'm dont think i agree with it though, kinda defeats the whole purpose of marriage, but different folks different strokes......is that how it go?
The gossip you hear about these ppl especially on NY radio stations is so wild that you sometimes have to wonder if any of it is true. Or agree with the axiom, that life is often times stranger than fiction.
When I first read the autobiography of Henry Clay, I almost vomited on the spot. Not only did the man sanction open marriages, he even went so far as to suggest that when a man makes love to his wife, he should not only do it in the presence of others, but charge a small tarriff, even to passers by and other onlookers. A troubling account of a pseudo brothel involving Clay and his wife and a young Crispus Attucks still haunts my dreams to this day. My point is, when an African American power couple gets caught up in Whig philosophy...well let's just say that swinging is the least of our concerns....