Monday, October 17, 2005

 

Being 20 something

Courtesy a friend's Friendster account.I sure can relate.

Being Twenty-something - they call it the "Quarter-
life Crisis. It is when you stop going along with the
crowd and start realising that there are many
things about yourself that you didn't know and may
not like.

You start feeling insecure and wonder where you
will be in a year or two, but then get scared
because you barely know where you are now.

You start realising that people are selfish and that,
maybe, those friends that you thought you were so
close to aren't exactly the greatest people you
have ever met, and the people you have lost touch
with are some of themost important ones.

What you don't recognise is that they are realising
that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or
insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job ... and it is not even close to
what you thought you would be doing, or maybe
you are looking for a job and realizing that you are
going to have to start at the bottom and that
scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what
others are doing and find yourself judging more
than usual because suddenly you realise that you
have certain boundaries in your life and are
constantly adding things to your list of what is
acceptable and what isn't.

One minute, you are insecure and then the next,
secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force
of your life. You feel alone and scared and
confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you
try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon
realise that the past is drifting further and further
away, and there is nothing to do but stay where
you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how
someone you loved could do such damage to you.
Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet
anyone decent enough that you want to get to
know better. Or maybe you love someone but love
someone else too and cannot figure out why you
are doing this because you know that you aren't a
bad person.

One night stands and random hook ups start to
look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot
don't seem as fun.

You go through the same emotions and questions
over and over, and talk with your friends about the
same topics because you cannot seem to make a
decision.

You worry about loans, money, the future and
making a life for yourself... and while winning the
race would be great, right now you'd just like to be
a contender! What you may not realise is that
everyone reading this relates to it.
We are in our best of times and our worst of times
trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out

Comments:
Story of my life...Except the random hook-up parts. It will be a while before I can get that one out of my system. I'll be 30 next year and I'm hoping it will get better.
 
You could be like me still....forty something!

You getting any rains from this TD in Vincy, Kami?
 
Yeah, most of the girls I date are dealing with that shit...
 
Last night and early this morning had a lot of rain.Not sure if it related to a depression though.
 
I wish I could tell you it gets better... but I think you just described the growing process. And, it seems to continue most of your life.

You're probably just in the process of becoming a remarkable woman. Let it happen.
 
if you think 20 something is bad, wait till you hit the 40's. Then the 20's gonna seem like cake and ice cream.
 
My God Kami, that thing spells out my life completely! I'm really really glad to know that I'm not alone as a 20-something...thank you so much for sharing this post!
 
For real this 20 something period is so damn confusing and stressing!

Notice how when yuh likkle how yuh used to wish you were big, if you only knew what it was really like back then!
 
OMG...thank you so much for posting this. A friend sent this to me 2 years ago and I lost it. I've been looking for this for quite some time. It's definitely the story of my 20s!
 
I totally relate...what a confusing turn life has taken with my emotions, my future and everything else.
 
I like it :)
 
The 40's...I just start and I fraid to look back....
 
doan sweat the 20 something thing....30s much worse
 
jdid right 30's eh easy and take some naked pictures I regreat not doing that before I had my son.
 
Well, lots of it cojntinues into at least the early forties, so prepare oonoo mind.
 
Hi, I'm chicaluv:

What I read is exactly what I'm feeling: I swear, I have never felt more restless than I have in my LIFE! Especially the part about figuring out what is acceptable and what is not, that is the most difficult part for me.
 
wow this sums up almost every emotion i"m feeling, what i have found that helps is a diary that Ive kept since i was 16 and reading back on problems i wrote about back then seem so insignificant now so i suppose that will be the case when i look back on what Ive written now in say a years time. i think the problem at 20 is that everyone says that the whole world is there for the taking and at 20 you feel that you have the ability to do anything its just scary that these things may never materialize
 
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