Tuesday, February 15, 2005
Valentine's Day And Mothers' Day
A lot of people dismiss VDay as a farce saying it is just an over commercialized fake day.Some say love should be celebrated every day and not on any one day on the calender.For me love is a verb which means it involves doing.The way I see it a lot of people get stuck in a routine and don't even do something nice for their significant others whether it be Valentine's day,a birthday or even Christmas.What am trying to say is we all love to feel appreciated and if it takes a Feb 14th to bring a little change in the monotony in some relationships,so be it.
On the other hand Mothers Day message is pretty much the same.Here is a day that is set aside to show one's mother love and appreciation.Some people I know that are vehemently opposed to VDay get all excited about Mother's Day and pull out all the stops.It makes me wonder if a little bit of hypocrisy not involved here.Why wait for the second Sunday in May to show your mother she is special?
People talk about feeling left out on Vday if they not in any relationships.Think about if you not a mother and everywhere the joys of motherhood being shoved in your face.Bear in mind that women with out children are often perceived as being some what deficient.I have even heard people saying to not have children is sinful because we are supposed to be fruitful and multiply.
Talk about feeling left out ! And if your mother was not particularly nice to you then it can be an all round annoying day.Truth is we all do not have good mothers.On Mothers' Day,I have the excuse of youth so nobody really bugs me with "when are you going to have a baby" etc etc but older women get the the subtle and not so subtle pressure.
So the way I see it all these type of days are commercialised.There is no escaping it.Even Christmas has long lost the meaning so the thing is just to take from each day what is worth taking.Leave behind what annoys and maybe celebrate the thought.
On the other hand Mothers Day message is pretty much the same.Here is a day that is set aside to show one's mother love and appreciation.Some people I know that are vehemently opposed to VDay get all excited about Mother's Day and pull out all the stops.It makes me wonder if a little bit of hypocrisy not involved here.Why wait for the second Sunday in May to show your mother she is special?
People talk about feeling left out on Vday if they not in any relationships.Think about if you not a mother and everywhere the joys of motherhood being shoved in your face.Bear in mind that women with out children are often perceived as being some what deficient.I have even heard people saying to not have children is sinful because we are supposed to be fruitful and multiply.
Talk about feeling left out ! And if your mother was not particularly nice to you then it can be an all round annoying day.Truth is we all do not have good mothers.On Mothers' Day,I have the excuse of youth so nobody really bugs me with "when are you going to have a baby" etc etc but older women get the the subtle and not so subtle pressure.
So the way I see it all these type of days are commercialised.There is no escaping it.Even Christmas has long lost the meaning so the thing is just to take from each day what is worth taking.Leave behind what annoys and maybe celebrate the thought.
# posted by Abeni @ 6:43 AM 
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U know u can afford it now. Just marry first and have a wonderful life. You are very nice person. U should settle down.
(Hmm, maybe there's a proposal in de previous comment, Kami.:) Mothers who aren't 'nice' could still be celebrated, but mothers who're just plain wicked or who abandon their kids can gwaan 'bout them bizniz--Mother's Day, an' every day! It's true 'bout de pressure some women get on that day.
Hmmm, good reasoning still Abeni...I like the way you think! Why bother waiting for just one fine day to tell your mother [or father for that matter] that you love him or her! Every day should be valentine's day and mother's day and father's day!
Jdid,you may not but many of my friends who are against Vday knock themselves out when it comes to Mday.I see a contradiction.Ad,I really don't think in general people just wait for that day,to me they do a little extra.
but then kami ya saying is an all or nuttin proposal. celebrate all or doan celebrate nun. I dont think most folk see it that way
Well the principle is the same for Mothers'Day,Fathers'day,Vday.It comes down to one day on a calender to celebrate something/one isn't it? I see no difference between all three.Every single one of them commercialised and hyped so to single out Vday as the devil in the crowd is contradictory IMO.
I agree with Kami, JDid.I don't see the difference. We should be sharing and caring all the time but we choose to do that more at Christmas, We should show appreciation to mothers and fathers all the time and some of us do but we have special days for that as well. What makes Valentines Day any different from the others. If we ignore Valentines Day should we ignore the others as well based on the line of reasoning? I don't think we should miss out on opportunities to mark special ocassions just because. Seize them as you can. If it's a case of affordability then that could also apply at any of the other occassions.
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