Wednesday, September 22, 2004

 

Gilmore Girls

Rory slept with Dean end of last season. One problem though is that Dean is married and now after Rory has slept with him she is waking up to the reality that Dean goes home to a wife and a marriage he told her was over.

Couple lessons here that can be applied to real life.

1)Stay away from OPP..especially married OPP

2)Sure his marriage sucks but he is still there.So let him make a decision before you jump in

3)Once your emotions get involved you not likely to be satisfied with being the other woman.Blame it on our socialisation if you want to but the majority of women still want security.

Probably sounds idealistic and I know life is not always black and white but I can't think of better ways to safeguard one's emotional wellbeing. I mean relationships are hard enough without the added complications of having a third person in the picture to whom the object of your desire is legally and otherwise committed to. Who needs all this drama in their lives? It all boils down to you making a conscious decision not to place your self in situations where you end up getting the short end of the stick

And why is it that married men seeking affairs choose single women? I don't have any statistics but based on what I see happening around me it seems to be the norm. Seems to me that having an affair with a married woman is less complicated. For one there should be no expectations,you act out your fantasy ,go home to your partner and everyone is happy.

Comments:
Haven't seen the show. But since we're applying things to real life:

"2)Sure his marriage sucks but he is still there.So let him make a decision before you jump in."

So you're saying a man doesn't make his own decision to sleep with a woman other than his wife?

Not once have you put any responsibility back onto the married man. And it takes two to tango. Idealistic? No. Naive? Very.
 
Why should I put maximum responsibilty on the man if the woman chooses not to make an informed decision? The show imitates life because it is quite common to hear women say after the man told them it was over etc only to discover later that the he lied.Am yet to see a man complain bitterly in such scenarios..so I don't see why I should be apologetic about stressing that women look after their interests
 
My older sister always said; when a man tells you that his wife is dis and dat..and how he so miserably in his marriage etc etc...just translate that to mean that he is telling you that to let you know how much he loves his wife b/c wid all his tribulation he is still there!

Soundest and and wisest single adviced I ever heard about married OPP.
 
Why do married men choose single women to have affairs with as opposed to married women? well if you think relationships involving three people are complicated imagine how complicated it must be if there are 4 involved.
 
Was actually thinking that the expectation level on both sides would be less.But then am naive so don't take what am saying as the definitive word.
 
If di man nah left his "real" woman when he met you and you want him too, he is not that into you. Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah!

"The Oprah WInfrey Show"
 
So f*cking correct,Thandieland
 
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